Diwali: Let's light up the world

Diwali or Deepawali is a biggest festival of Indians. 'Deep' means 'diya( a small pot made up of soil)'  'wali' means to light up. Diwali is a sanskrit word which means ' series of lights'. The preparation of the festival last 5 days, the last day falling on the darkest night of Hindu lunisolar month kartika. This festival is mainly celebrated by the followers of Hindu, Jain, Sikh and Buddha religion, but it is celebrated all around the world irrespective of religious boundaries. India is a multi religious and multi cultural country, all the festivals are celebrated by all religions. This post is dedicated to significance of this festival and lessons it conveys.

People clean their houses, work places, buy new clothes, prepare or buy sweets before the auspicious festival. On the day of festival, people light up the candles, diya, LEDs to remove the darkness in the darkest night of the month. Every diwali night, India looks amazing from the space in night when whole country is decorated with the lights. The evening starts with the worship of gods and goddess, especially Lakshmi ji and Rajma ji. After that children burst crackers & people visit their friends and relatives, distribute sweets & spread happiness in relations. I will not go deep into the history of this festival in this post, rather will focus on the lessons & its significance in our life.

Diwali is celebrated on darkest night. Lights are used to remove the darkness in the surrounding  which can be clearly visible with our naked eyes. But what about the darkness inside us? The darkness inside us is nothing but fear, the negative qualities, an imaginary wall of our comfort zone, the big list of expectations from family or friends or relatives, sometimes a selfish nature, etc. The outer darkness can be remove easily by lighting up lights and candles, but to light up inside us it need tremendous efforts. Because it need to have control on our mind and thoughts, instead of allowing uncontrollable thoughts to govern our mind and body. This festival ask us to also remove the darkness inside us. Diwali was firstly celebrated to remember victory of light over darkness, good over evil, knowledge over ignorance.

According to me, the motive of all festivals is same, irrespective of religions. All festivals teach us a lesson of harmony and peace. Diwali also signify this. The sweets which we distribute are one of the way to bring harmony, peace & happiness in relationships. There are two parts of it: First in the society, second within ourself. Diwali teach us to have coordination in our thoughts and actions, it teach us to be more sweet first to ourself because then only we can be sweet to others. Sweet also symbolise the pure and good thoughts which purify our soul & body. It also help in removing the darkness inside us.

Knowledge is a source of good life style and healthy relationships & solving problems in the world. Most of the time we fight within ourself a lot that we don't understand the problems of others & try to help them. Sympathy & Empathy has a great power, but it remain undiscovered until we believe in them. 'Ravana' was believed to be most wiser person in his time, but he was killed by 'Rama' due to his bad deeds. He ignored the power of knowledge he had and misused it, which could have been used in good way & save his as well as life of other soldiers. In our life also we must understand each & every situation  in my words ' seeing both sides of the coin before taking any decision'.

We all are human beings first, after that come all religions, cultures, nationalities, etc. The humanity is the biggest religion in the world. But we forget it when we are into difficult situations. It is believed that one person cannot change world, but if everyone start doing the same, this chain can surely bring love, peace, happiness, prosperity in the world. On this diwali, irrespective of nationality, let's try to light up the world ( both inside and outside us) with happiness and love.

Dreams: The Future Reality

Everyone of us see a dream, let it be the dream while sleeping or some life dream. It's the part and parcel of our life. When we see a dream while sleeping they comes to our mind because of all what we have in our subconscious mind. Our subconscious is very powerful, but first & foremost thing is to understand its power. However in this post I am going to discuss about the Dreams in our life and then put some light on the power of subconscious mind.

Dreams are the incident whose picture we make it in our mind and then we want to make them reality. Dreams help us to visulaize the situation or cirumstances or conditions when that goal,aim, target will be achieved. It help us to light up the fire deep inside us and this small flame can led to even a big revolutions. Dreams are the stepstone to any accomplishment and achievements. But dreams are dreams only until any action is performed to accomplish them.

Lots of people see the dreams, but they cannot accomplish them. Even I have also seen many, but not went for all of them and still have a lot on my checklist. The important aspect is to arrange them in the order of priority. Our mind generates thousands of ideas at a time, for sure we cannot go for all of them. We need to undertand what is our priority. The priority differ from person to person. All of us are unique and  have our own strength. Before defining the steps to make our dreams into reality, they must be prioritise.

For example, when an entrepreneur decides to jump into this field, he/she might be having lots of ideas to work on. But he/she have to understand the which is the best idea to go for (no idea is best, in start every idea is just a rough sketch) by doing the market reserach and learning about another important stuffs related to it. Once the homework is done on the dreams he has seen, now he can make the action plan to make his dream a reality.

It is trully said that 'dreams are dreams only if no action is performed'. The best ideas are found in graveyards because it need sacrifice, time, dedication, determination, patience and courage to work in order to make the ideas a reality. For the far sighted people, for the champions dreams are not those what they see while sleeping, but dreams are those which don't let them sleep. They have to work day and night to make their idea a reality.

Unfortunately we limited our dreams due to xyz reasons. Some due to social effect, some due to our own past experiences, some prefer to be on safe side instead of playing risky game, etc. there are lots of reason. The best thing about dreams are this that they are priceless, even when they are firstly pictured in our mind, also even after they become the reality. Just dont't let your fear to see the dreams because seeing dreams is first step to accomplish them and make the most out of life. At the end, we all end at the same place: in graveyard, so why to have fear, lets live fearless.

When we start dreaming fully, our subconscious mind also get trained in that way. It needs 21 days of continous efforts to change its neuron network and change the thinking way. So, all the things we perform are related to each other, in one way or other. 

'Dare to dream, dare to live freely'- Rahul Yadav

Initiative: Dreams to Reality

Everything which exist today in reality was a dream someday. Making dreams to reality require initiaiveness. Without initiation of anything nothing can be become reality. Initiation is an important key to creativity. This post is dedicated to ' Initiative: Dreams to Reality'.

Initiative is defined as the step taken to start something which has not done yet. Knowingly & unkowingly we take steps in our life to initiate something. What differs is the level of initiation. Some take initiatives at very ground level, while some take initiatives at highest level. The one taken at highest levels are sometimes consider as risks. Initiation is nothing but a step to give a kick start to something new. 

Self-initiative is the ability of a person to kick start himself/herself to take actions without the need of external kick. For example, this is really important in entrepreneur world. The characteristic of initiation help them to take risks & see the big picture of their ideas. To turn an idea into reality, courage is required. The initiative ability helps to gather an indispensable courage to take must required steps.

When we see from scientific point of view: ignition temperature, threshold level , etc. are metaphor to initiative in human beings. Every power source is having a ignition temperature after which only source works at maximum efficiency. The same goes to human beings, it is known as initiative skills. The will to take actions take us to a level where we work at maximum efficiency. Sole reason for it is that in this situation we don't have fear, and when we are fearless we become unstoppable.

During the time of adversity ( I consider that situation as an opportunity, because it's the time when you can prove yourself and build yourself) it is better to analyze it and then take any actions. When we stuck into situation when we can either take any one of the road, the skills acquire during life time are important, the lessons we learn from our and other experineces (but being broadminded,not seeing only narrow picture) are helpful.

Being initiative at one point also means willing to take risks, because there comes moment in life when you have to come out of crowd and take the initiative. This initiative is taken in order to bring good results, serve the humanity, help others who are really in need of it. For example, in a team someone have to take initiative to discuss the ideas and take everyones prospective to complete the project or certain task instead of only following the orders. As a team leader, it's the responsibility of team leader to take initiative and ask the team members for their views also. When all team members will feel their worth in team, ther getting listened, they will work more efficiently.

In our life, we need self-initiative attituide almost every point of life. Whatever we are today is the result of steps taken in our past. Self-initiativeness brings happiness and sense of proud from inside, at same time being kind and polite from heart and contributing more to society.

 'Initiativeness is the unbeatable'- Rahul Yadav

Compete: With ourself or others???

The world is running so fast, our life is running so fast. We hardly have time for us, for our near and dear ones. Some says its due to competition. It's true that today there is lot of competition everywhere, let it be education sector, corporate sector, competition among countries, technological sector etc. But why this competition is there? Why is it required? What is its importance? This post is dedicated to competition or competing.

Competition is defined as the willingness to be better and best then others. It is for sure important to have good market value then other competitors in market, because this help in the growth of the business. Competition drive businesses to make better and affordable products for the consumer. This way any business can make their product cost effective and have good market value.



We see the stock market going through ups and downs. Some of the businesses go in the debt, while some capture the whole market single handedly. It's all depends that the customers or consumers are happy with the product or services. Competition is a positive action and I firmly believe it must be there for continous improvement in anything.

But now, why I am talking about this corporate and business industry on this blog, which is dedicated to our personal development and behavior. The only reason is that: Human being is involved everywhere. Competition is the creation of human mind only.

According to me one should compete with himself/herself only. What I mean by this statement is, instead of competiting with your competitors, if we are are competing with us then we are imporving us, which is really important. As above I mentioned that some firms go into debt, while others capture market single handedly: the only difference between both is one is going for creation, while other is just competing. Creation is more important than only competing.


When we try to be the better self of us, we automatically compete with our competitors in a positive way and with positive attitude. For example, there is a start up company. They have some idea of a product in their mind, but this product is already there in market by another company. So, one option is to just drop the idea of this product, while the other option is to come up with some adavancement in the product which can make this start up on upper hand from their competitor who is already in market. So, they need to improve themself first, by competing with their basic product idea.

The one and only way to compete and be better then others is first compete with our self. By doing this we come to know about strengths and weaknesses, understand ouself very well. This action bring us the gratitude in our self and we are having more positive attitude, instead of bad competiton feelings and jealousy with our competitors.

" Compete with yourself to be a better version of you´"- Rahul Yadav

Self Talk: Discovering Yourself

We are living in 21st century, the era of technical development. The scenario of world is totally changed in 21st century. Now we are more connected to devices instead of human beings. Spending more time on social media, instead of spending time together by meeting personally. This post is dedicated to the self-talk, which according to me is really important.

Self talk according to me is defined as the way we analyze our mind, bring body and soul together, be fair & honest to our-self. It is a way to defined our life purpose, to analyze our day to day activities, make our thoughts clear. By doing self talk we come to know about our strengths and weaknesses. There are 60 % of people who are not having any idea what their strengths and weaknesses are. Living a purposeful life is important to take a lot out of this human body.

Whenever we are in some adverse situations, things doesn't go according to you planned them or expected them to happen, stress and worry overcome our self-confidence and calmness. In that period of time, self talk help us to find the solution. It show us the ray of light and guide us in some direction ( don't know it will be right or wrong, just take the risk. If it result into good, its best. Else you are already in problem). Sometime we over think, which lead us to not even decide what is right and wrong, the door is open in front of us but we are not able to see it due to our over thinking.

The moment when the dark clouds are around, no ray of light is there, just ask yourself & talk to yourself you will find the way out the dark clouds to heaven and sunshine will be there again. But the problem is we are running so fast in our life, that we even don't have a single second for us. The time we have for us, we spend in thinking if I will do this what others will think about me.

The time just after sound sleep in morning and the time before the sleep is best time for self talk (according to me). In morning our energy is at the peak, while in the night we can analyze our whole day activities and talk to our-self where I am going right and wrong. The most important thing is: no one is perfect, so instead of only focusing on good deeds and strengths, its best to see our wrong moves and weakness. If you are truly talking with yourself, you will decide to remove your weakness and improve your self more with the next sun ray of the morning.

Self talk help us to discover our hidden side which we mostly ignore it. It is a key to open the door to personality development and unlimited happiness & successful life. The honesty to our-self is first and foremost important aspect then anything else. If one cannot be honest to one self, its impossible to be honest with anyone else.

"Self talk is key to discover our self"-Rahul Yadav

Habits

Whatever you are today, is the result of continuous repetition of activities which we called habits. It is scientifically proven that whatever we do continous for 3 weeks, it will automatically become our habit and inculcate in our daily life routine. All the small and big activities we performed both knowingly and unknowingly has resulted in whatever we are today, what we are doing today will decide our future. This post I am dedicating to habits.

In our childhood, our parents at home and teachers at school teach us about daily routine (which is part of habits), wake up early, get fresh up before going to school, plat at a particular time, etc. These all small activities which he had performed in our childhood has resulted in what we are today. For example, some of us are early birds while some are night riders, some are good in sports while some are good in academics or art. We generally see the outstanding persons in their respective field as very talented in their field, but only handful of them have this talent by born while others have turned their daily practices (habits) into their talent.

Today everywhere we are talking about the Aritifical intellinegce, Machine learning, Deep learning, etc. We are training the softwares to make our life easier, which is really great and I appreciate it firmly as an engineer. But sometimes we forget to train our own neural networks in brain to make life more easier for us. The more we train our neural networks of brain, the more efficient we will be in our daily life.

The habits which we make plays a crucial role in which direction we are guiding our life. The small angle of divergence can make a big effect in the long run of the life. For example, if the pilot of aircraft get diverge only 1 degree from its route, the flight will land in another part of the world. The same goes with our life too. We have to keep a regular check on our daily activites in order to reach where we want to go.

Done is done, can't be undone. But we can change our present habits by leaving the bad old ones, so that our future will be good. We focus on more what is going below our neck, that we forget the power house is above our neck and we should take control of it firmly.

You cannot change the habits in one day. It hard for our body to adapt to new routine at instance. So, once you decided to change any specific habit, you need dedication, devotion and discipline to practice it daily inspite of the pain you feel ( physically and mentally) to let your body used to get to new habit. To be honest, mental pain is more difficult to handel as compared to physical, that's the reason our brain always try to find some shortcuts or excuses untilunless we made it to be focused.

"Our habits decide our destiny"- Rahul Yadav

An Attitude: Good to have it??

The way we present our self in the society, people get image of us (not talking about judgement). Our reaction towards any thing is an attitude we have in us. Or in other words our attitude decides our reaction towards anything or situation or circumstances. In this post, I am going to write on attitude.

Attitude is a characteristic which we build in our personality. Our daily small actions and reactions make our attitude. The attitude can be divided into two types: Positive attitude and Negative attitude. Usually if we talk about attitude, then generally people take it as a negative quality ( negative attitude). Instead of seeing the big picture of attitude, we generally see only it as a negative type. Which is neither true nor fair enough at all. From my own personal experiences and from others, attitude plays an important role.

Our attitude is build from the way we perceive the situations. Every coin as two sides ( three according to me), which side of the coin we focus more, our attitude will built like that. If we see the positive side of the coin (in problem situation also), we will have positive attitude and will power to solve it. On the other hand if we see the negative side of the coin, we will get stressed and attract negative vibes in our mind, which will create fear in our heart and it will be difficult to solve the problem in this case. So, the way we perceive the situation, the way our attitude becomes.

Taking an example of a student who was not able to score well and pass in exam due to any xyz reason. Now, if he take this downfall as a positive way: he will not get disappoint (for sure he will be for sort time as its a human nature) for long time, decide to make a plan for study well and target to score good marks in the next exam. On the other hand, he can get nervous, scattered and have low self confidence because he was not able to pass while his fellow students pass the exam. In this specific situation he can target to score the highest marks ( more then the current highest marks scored by a topper in this exam). If he adopt the first behavior it will known as positive attitude while the later one is negative attitude.

Often I heard people saying that this person is having attitude ( negative way) and he/she is not good due to his attitude nature, even when in reality that person is having a positive attitude , it was misjudged as negative one. The main reason is in our mind, the meaning of attitude is negative (I am talking in general, not about any specific person,country,region,etc.).

For sure our mind is the governing authority of our actions. The more and more we feed it with the food of positive vibes, it well induced more positive attitude in us. It will be shown in our action, our behavior in society. Now, for sure there will be some negative vibes,negative attitude as no one is perfect in the world. But we can commit us to be best, if not perfect or try to reach perfection which is similar to tending to infinity (my science and engineering friends will get this sarcasm).

According to my prospective, it's good to have a positive attitude (may be you will have a bit negative also, but try to eradicate it as much as possible). The positive attitude build our good personality by inculcating characteristics like discipline, punctual, dedication, etc.

"Bear an attitude, but positive not negative"- Rahul Yadav

Smile: Treasure of soul

Smile is a way of expressing good feelings inside us. This is one of the wonderful asset which we have. It is an asset which increases by expanding it. This post is dedicated to smile: Treasure of the soul.

You might be thinking why I called it " Treasure of the soul". To explain this, I will take an example of body and soul as two different things. Human body is visible, while our soul is not. The soul is the source of power to run this body in a proper way. Coming to the point, why smile is a treasure of soul? We smile when we feel happy from inside, from our heart ( I am not talking about fake formal smiles). This feeling comes when we are grateful for everything we have (despite of challenges & problems as they are part of life). When we smile for something or greet someone with smile, it provide a sense of satisfaction & happiness to us also by helping other to make smile.

Most of the time we build a wall around us, which cannot be seen physically but can be seen in our actions. This wall is our comfortable zone (it's only one brick of it). We try to be comfortable , on safe side and avoid any problem & adversities. This is normally visible in our social behavior. At one point we say human beings are social animals, on the other hand we just be social to some persons and strict to others. Smile is having a power of converting a stranger to a close friend. But you have to take initiative for it surely.

Smiling (Laughing) is one of the greatest medicine in the world. Smile provide a sense of fulfillment to us, which keep us healthy & positive vibes in our thoughts. The thoughts govern our nature and behavior. Smile generate good thoughts in our mind.

In old age homes, the owner organize events which makes the old people laugh and enjoy the moments. Their one smile on face brings many more days more in their life. On the entertainment channels, we can see so many TV series dedicated to make their audience smile & laugh. We pay thousands of euros in tickets to attend these shows live. We are well aware about the benefits of smile to us and to others, but sometimes we forget it in some difficult situations. Once a Journalist asked a doctor " What do you suggest to our audience in order to be healthy?", the doctor replied "Smile yourself and make others smile too, this is how we can change the world & be healthy".

Have you ever experienced in life when we face any adversity and if we worry in that situation, we get stressed out. But while on the other hand, if we face it with a smile, solutions are easy to find. This is how a smile effect us psychologically. Our psychology is build by whatever small thing we do & the way we perceive the situation. If we show a positive attitude towards the problems, take it with smile on our face & positive vibes in mind, it becomes a great opportunity.

"A smile can make wonders happen"- Rahul Yadav

Confidence

We have heard in our downfalls to have confidence in yourself. In relationship (friendship, family, couple, etc.) we have confidence in each other. But what is confidence? How does it help us? What is its importance in our life? Why we should have it to be unstoppable? In this post, I am going to discuss about confidence ( from my point of view).

Confidence is defined as the ability to believe and have faith in something. It can be a person, a thing or an event. It can be in either living or non-living being. It is the strength of a person, which motivate and inspire him/her to see a broad picture of a situation of circumstances. It can broadly divided into two parts: Self- confidence and Confidence in others. Their is also third type of confidence, which is harmful for ys: Over- confidence, about which I will discuss in sort in last 
paragraph of this post.

Let's start from ourself, the Self-confidence. It is nothing but the quality of a person having confidence in himself /herself. Self confidence is defined as ability of the person to keep him/her full of positivity when he/she is either going through ups or downs in life. Whenever we stuck into some situation & there is no solution seems to be possible, if we have self confidence in our self then we inspire us from inside to find or create the solution in any adverse case. Self confidence is a small step of the big ladder which we called success, or I can say successful life. When we read biography or listen to the outstanding person's in our society, they mostly talk about self confidence. Self confidence make ys to take meaningful risks in life.

Confidence in others come into picture when we see human being as a social animal. Humans like to be in society, interact with each other and have a good social life (differ person to person). The moment we take birth, confidence come into effect. At first we have confidence in parents, then in our siblingsc(some may have different view on it). At every point of life confidence help us to build good social relations let it be with parents, siblings, spouses, friends, etc. Confidence is the building block of every thing ( knowingly-unknowingly). This is our confidence in our political leaders which led us to elect them, which led to country's development, good team work, achieving the common goals. All the leaders have confidence in either their team mates or competitors which motivate & inspire them to improve their skills continously and be a role model.

Now lets take an example, the newly recruited project manager is need to lead the team of 10 members in order to complete a project. Now this project manager must have self confidence in himself which drive him to find solutions & bring the team together in order to achieve a common goal of project completion. After that comes confidence in his team mates and their confidence among themselves. Until unless he don't have confidence on the abilities of his team members, he will hesitate to assign work to them & will be worried about it. But if he has confidence in them, he will be stress free and also ask solutions from them. He will be a good leader, not a boss everytime.

There is a thin line between confidence and over-confidence or self-confidence and over-confidence. While self-confidence (confidence) results into extra ordinary achievements, on the other hand over-confidence could pave the path to destructions. Over confidence is always harmful for the personality & bring other negative qualities with it. It's always recommended to be aware of thin line separating confidence & over-confidence.

" Be confident, have self-confidence not over-confidence, be unstoppable"- Rahul Yadav

Motivation vs Inspiration

The person who is willing to stand out of crowd, the person who dedicate his/her life for welfare for others, the person who is successful always talk about one thing: Motivation and Inspiration. In his/her life, there must be some events or incidents which lead him/her to be successful and do what he/she is doing in present. Motivation and inspiration are the two key factors for happiness and successful life.

For some people they are the same side of the coin, while for others they are two different sides of the coin. According to me, they are the two different sides of the same coin. Both plays there own important role in our life. This is my first post on this blog, so I decided to write about the foremost important aspect of becoming unstoppable in life.

Let's talk about motivation. Be normally hear motivation is one of the key to success. But, what is Motivation? Motivation is a feeling when our brain secretes
dopamine, which accelerate our heart beats and bring self confidence. It can happen due to anything: by watching a movie, by listening to some good story, by coming across any event or incident, etc. There are numerous ways to get motivated. When we are motivated, we become more determined, we set our goals, we have a wide vision. This motivation can be for anything, it can be to achieve good marks in exam, to get dream job, to have girl as your girlfriend on whom you have crush, to live at your dream place, etc. When we are motivated, we are more driven. Our brain start working in the way to achieve our goals or targets (there is difference between both, will explain in my further posts). Motivation is to find the solutions.

For example, one fine day a boy was watching a action movie based on science fiction. At the end of the movie he was so motivated by the movie that he decided to be a fiction script writer and write book on the science fiction. Even though his writing skills were not good. This is the motivation to write a science fiction book which he got from the movie. The movie motivated him, it helped him increasing his self confidence and believe in himself. He started writing the book. His energy level was high for some days. But as days passed, the graph of energy level was decreased. It would have not happen so, if we was inspired to write this book.

What is Inspiration? As the word says "Inspire" is something which drive our soul and body in one direction. It brings our brain and heart together to achieve our goals and targets. This comes from deep inside of us. Unlike motivation, it is self driven, which brings dedication, determination and discipline in our actions. Inspiration doesn't fade out with time. In metaphoric way, its the inner fire which sets our soul and body to burn to get the desired results by overcoming each challenges and obstacles coming in way. Like motivation, this inspiration can be acquired from any movie, person, events, incidents, experiences, etc. Inspiration is knowing our strengths and weakness, but then also going for our goals and targets by deciding to improve your strengths and overcoming the weaknesses. It help us to know our self much better. Inspiration is to create or invent the solutions.

In the above example, if the boy was inspired by the movie rather than only motivated, he would have developed writing skills and then start writing the book. By doing so, he knows his weakness and will try to find the solutions for it by motivation, if solutions are not available he would have gone to create solutions because of the inspiration. This lead to have same energy from inside while writing the book and he would have been successful in it.

Motivation along cannot stay longer, it needs the inspiration to bring extra ordinary results. Motivation help us to define our motive in life, while inspiration inspire us from inside to achieve the defined motive in life. Both of them are inter dependent and need to be there to be unstoppable in life. Life is full of ups and downs, both of these qualities help us to be dedicated, determined, devoted and disciplined towards our life goals.

"Be Motivated, Be Inspired, Be Unstoppable" -  Rahul Yadav